The Subtle Art of Learning Nothing...
So I recently finished “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck” by Mark Manson, and I came to the realization that I learned absolutely nothing about not giving a fuck.
It basically says everything I've been saying all about self-entitlement. and the whole point of the book is to basically accepting that we're all gonna die and that in itself is enough to not give a fuck and that we all should avoid thinking about death for the obvious reason of not having to give a fuck.
In my opinion, I don't think we don't think about death because we don't give a fuck, it's the simple matter that we don't know when or where so we just go about our lives anyway. Wether we give a fuck or not, we all subconsciously know we're all going to die someday. The part of death was actually the last chapter but I wanted to share with you some similarities in my previous post on this topic.
"As alluring as it is, entitlement isolates us. Our curiosity and excitement for the world turns in upon itself and reflects our own biases and projections onto every person we meet and every event we experience. This feels sexy and enticing and may feel good for a while and sells a lot of tickets, but it's spiritual poison.
It's these dynamics that plague us now. we are so materially well off, yet so psychologically tormented in so many low-level and shallow ways. People relinquish all responsibility, demanding that society cater to their feelings and sensibilities. People hold on to arbitrary certainties and try to enforce them to others, often violently, in the name of some made-up righteous cause. People high on a false superiority, fall into inaction and lethargy for fear of trying something worthwhile and failing at it.
The pampering of the modern mind has resulted in a population that feels deserving of something without earning that something, a population that feels they have a right to something without sacrificing for it. " - from The Subtle art Of Not Giving A Fuck
Of course I have to give Mark credit for saying it much better and much more intellectually than I did. But this is the truth in the age of millennials. This book didn't really say anything I didn't already know. It had it's funny moments, raw truths and a series of personal stories. Kind of like more of a memoir of how Mark came to not give a fuck.
That's truly not most of us. I give way to many fucks. Partly because of my OCD, but why the fuck shouldn't I give a fuck about things being done the right way or the best way; speaking retail world for example. Too many times, in the workplace, I've heard "problems" or "incidents" are based on isolated events. Bullshit! Most problems and/or incidents are usually recurrent. It's always the same problem. Broken promises made to clients, services offered but no agents available. and when you try to explain or educate people, it's always your fault and only your fault, and then everyone is offended. and where the fuck is management in all of this? Not giving a fuck of course.
"People get addicted to feeling offended all the time because it gives them a high; being self-righteous and morally superior feels good. As political cartoonist Tim Kreider put it in a New York Times op-ed: "outrage is like a lot of other things that feel good but over time devour us from the inside out. And it's even more insidious than most vices because we don't even consciously acknowledge that it's a pleasure." -The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck
So basically just don't give a fuck about anyone or anything else, but do give a fuck when it applies to you. because most of our experiences are suppose to feel good anyway. So go ahead and flip the bitch off who cut your mom off while driving causing her to hit the breaks hard putting your whole family in danger. It feels morally right to let them know by giving them the bird that they fucked up and that ultimately this is something you choose to give a fuck about.
Overall, I recommend this book, I give it an 8 out of 10. Everyone is different so you might find this a good read or learn something. I definitely agreed with a lot that I read, I had some laughs, but II won't lie, the last two chapters were the hardest to read. I was more like "when is this book going to be over". lol. but I can't deny, it's over all a good read.
Are you thinking maybe a bookstore gift card for a loved one this holiday? Maybe pick up a copy for yourself? Whatever you decide at least walk into a bookstore and check something out. There's something for everyone. Happy Holidays!